Have you found that there are some hard things about discovering your very own unique and wonderful voice? One big road block to that discovery is SHOULD. In fact in thinking about writing this entry my first idea was to write on SHOULD. My next thought was no you SHOULD write about …(here fill in any number of things). So I fought with SHOULD and won.
Do you have the bony SHOULD finger often pointed at you? In fact an even bigger weapon is THEY SAY combined with YOU SHOULD. SHOULD is capitalized because I’m not speaking of the gentle, loving reminder to get out of the way of an oncoming car. I am talking about the command to do something a certain way before you even have time to feel how you really choose to do it. In fairness to SHOULD some of his/her/it’s suggestions are ones you may choose to follow. It is SHOULD’s commanding don’t think just hop to it approach that leaves people out of the equation.
I look at each of us like onions with many layers to be peeled away. The voice is shrieking you SHOULD think of people as roses with lovely petals. I don’t know voice a rose seems kind of confining… an onion on the other
hand gives one many more options. Ok so back on topic let’s look at how to get SHOULD down to manageable size. This is not an easy thing to do because subtract about a year from your age and that is how long you have been under SHOULD’s thumb. At this point do you think listening to SHOULD makes your life run more efficiently? It SHOULD you have cut out the middle man...you. Does SHOULD feel safe? Everyone should approve after all they are the ones telling you how to behave. It is a win win situation, right?
People learn, retain and deal with things in different ways. For me I do better seeing things in writing. If ousting SHOULD all at once seems pretty drastic or makes you uncomfortable how about writing down the times you
are the target of a SHOULD. Then since this is your journey you can decide if you want to ignore some of the deadly SHOULDs and fnd your own answers.
Do you have the bony SHOULD finger often pointed at you? In fact an even bigger weapon is THEY SAY combined with YOU SHOULD. SHOULD is capitalized because I’m not speaking of the gentle, loving reminder to get out of the way of an oncoming car. I am talking about the command to do something a certain way before you even have time to feel how you really choose to do it. In fairness to SHOULD some of his/her/it’s suggestions are ones you may choose to follow. It is SHOULD’s commanding don’t think just hop to it approach that leaves people out of the equation.
I look at each of us like onions with many layers to be peeled away. The voice is shrieking you SHOULD think of people as roses with lovely petals. I don’t know voice a rose seems kind of confining… an onion on the other
hand gives one many more options. Ok so back on topic let’s look at how to get SHOULD down to manageable size. This is not an easy thing to do because subtract about a year from your age and that is how long you have been under SHOULD’s thumb. At this point do you think listening to SHOULD makes your life run more efficiently? It SHOULD you have cut out the middle man...you. Does SHOULD feel safe? Everyone should approve after all they are the ones telling you how to behave. It is a win win situation, right?
People learn, retain and deal with things in different ways. For me I do better seeing things in writing. If ousting SHOULD all at once seems pretty drastic or makes you uncomfortable how about writing down the times you
are the target of a SHOULD. Then since this is your journey you can decide if you want to ignore some of the deadly SHOULDs and fnd your own answers.
